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randomized trials of parenting programs, pooled. Praise and consequences that fit the behavior were among the techniques linked to stronger effects.
Leijten et al., 2019
The Mentor Parent
8 weeks. 48 tiny lessons by email. Free.
For every parent who has negotiated with a four-year-old over a blue cup and lost. (The cup won.)
Permission slip
Home Office of Getting Out the Door
It's 8:05. The shoes are still off.
You asked three times. Politely. Then your mouth went rogue and the whole street learned your kid's middle name.
Here's the thing nobody tells you: you never actually decided to yell. The yell showed up first. That's not a character flaw. It's a skill nobody taught you, and skills are learnable.
Researchers link parent anger to harsh, reactive parenting.
Week 2 of the program is about catching that anger a few seconds earlier, so you, not the anger, decide what happens next.
Hajal and Paley, 2020, Developmental Psychology
Every lesson cites the peer-reviewed studies behind it, with full references at the bottom of the email. Your mother-in-law's opinion is not one of them.
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randomized trials of online parenting programs. Child behavior problems went down, mostly for kids aged 2 to 9.
Canário et al., 2024
Practice beats reading.
Programs that had parents practice with their own kid showed bigger effects. So every lesson ends with a 15-minute exercise.
Wyatt Kaminski et al., 2008
8 weeks on one chart. One star a day.
Calm first, then connection, encouragement, big feelings, choices and limits, and finally one practice that holds it all together. Tap any day to see what lands in your inbox.
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Week 8
The Yelling Trap
Day 1 of 48 · Week 1, Why Children Cooperate
Why raising your voice works for a minute and costs you the next day, and the one change to try tonight.
Boss move
Say it louder. Then louder. Then the full name.
Mentor move
Learn what actually makes kids cooperate. Spoiler: it isn't volume.
Chore list (the easy kind)
- 1Sign the slip. Email, optional first name, one checkbox.
- 2Lesson 1 lands in minutes. With a welcome note that explains the plan.
- 3One lesson every morning at about 7, your time. About 8 minutes to read, then one exercise of 15 minutes or less.
- 4Bail whenever. One click at the bottom of any email. No hard feelings, no "are you sure?" maze.
Why free?
Because a paywall between a tired parent and a calmer morning is a terrible idea.
We're a small team of researchers and parents. This one's on us, for everyone raising kids.
Notes left on the fridge
Placeholder notes for now, until real parents write in.
"Day 6. I counted to three and never had to get to two. Unclear how. Not asking questions."
Parent of a 4-year-old · placeholder
"The shoe standoff took 40 seconds instead of 14 minutes. I was so shocked I forgot to be late."
Dad of two, ages 3 and 7 · placeholder
"Read it in the pickup line. Used it five minutes later. It worked. I'm suspicious."
Parent of an 8-year-old · placeholder
Questions parents ask
Is it actually free?
Yes. No trial, no upsell, no "premium week 3". It's a gift to everyone raising kids, and it stays free.
Who is it for?
Parents and caregivers of kids roughly 3 to 10. Every lesson has examples for two bands: 3 to 6 and 7 to 10.
How much time does it take?
About 8 minutes to read, then one exercise of 15 minutes or less that fits into things you already do: the bath, the drive, the shoe standoff.
When do the lessons arrive?
Lesson 1 lands a few minutes after you sign up. After that, one lesson every morning at about 7, your time, for 48 days.
Is this backed by real research?
Every lesson cites the peer-reviewed studies behind it, with the full references at the bottom of the email. The program was built from a library of more than 70 studies and reviews of parenting programs.
What if I miss a day?
The lesson waits in your inbox. Read it when you can. Nobody is grading you, and nobody will send you a guilt-trip email.
Can I stop whenever I want?
One click at the bottom of any email unsubscribes you. One more click deletes your data entirely.
What do you do with my email?
We use your email (and first name, if you give it) to send you the program. That's it. No ads, no selling, no trackers, no cookies on this site.
Is this therapy or medical advice?
No. It's education. If you are worried about your child's or your own safety or wellbeing, please talk to a doctor or a licensed professional.
There are two of us. Or a grandma.
Everyone signs up with their own email and gets their own lessons. Week 8 covers getting on the same page, so it's worth doing together.
Tomorrow at 8:05 you'll still have a kid with no shoes on. You'll just have a better move.
Permission slip
Home Office of Getting Out the Door